What are some defining moments in your life that changed everything?

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Lost in thought after church service  while scrolling through my Twitter feed I stumbled upon a great quote that fit perfectly with the new series my Pastor had just kicked off called Defining Moments

“Divine moments happen in the midst of simple questions.”—Megan Fate Marshman

Moments have power. Moments both create change and challenge direction. Rather big or small they often fall to a blind eye in the “moment” but looking back we see it is all part of a bigger shift.

The question in my mind was what are some of my defining moments?

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Question Wednesday 2: What Have You Said YES To Lately?

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Well, it is round two of question Wednesday and I am so excited to ask everyone out there the next one.

We all tend to say yes to work but how often do we say yes to anything else? Today I was reading through blog posts and I came across this article: Shonda Rhimes’ message at TED2016: Say ‘yes’ to what scares you, even if it’s saying ‘no’ to work.

After a quick search on YouTube, I found the video an attendee captured. You may want to check it out once the actual video is available but just know it is there if you want to take a sneak peek.

Shonda talks about how she thought her “hum” was her work. She thought she needed that “hum” to keep going. It is through her quest to say yes to everything that led to her real “hum” in life, JOY and LOVE.

It is about saying yes to things even when they are more difficult for us to say yes to. Some of us are great at work and terrible at family life. Some of us are great at staying connected with friends but not with family. Some of us are great at saying yes to helping others but not saying yes to helping ourselves. You could fill in your current situation.

We many think we are okay but once we lose our “hum” we know. Two key takeaway quotes from Shonda:  “The real hum is joy,”…”The real hum is love.” and “Work doesn’t work without play.”

The Truth About You

So why does this matter to you? Take a step back and look at what you say yes to in your life. You need a little work and play. You need a little challenge and relaxation. You need a little family time and a little friend time. What will one NO cost you? What could one YES gain you?

Why do we say no to a video our son is trying to show us? Why do we say yes to taking on that extra project at work always? Why do we say no to going out for coffee with a friend? Is it really time? Or is it something else? Is it just easier to do what you are used to? Is it easier to stick to the routine you have built around your life?

I challenge you to say YES to something this week you have not said YES to in a while and then post about it.

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What Breaks Your Heart May Also Lead You Home.

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Someone asked me recently what breaks your heart? The saying may not be new to many but when asked it is difficult to pinpoint a response. Seeing people homeless breaks my heart. Seeing people struggle breaks my heart. Seeing family owned businesses close after years and years in a community breaks my heart. Hearing people’s stories of trial breaks my heart. Watching others struggle at work, at home, in school, with purpose breaks my heart. How could one ever answer this question with a simple response?

Then it came to me. Seeing hurting people breaks my heart. Whether they are hurting from job loss, or loss of family, loss of a business, loss of a home or loss of purpose. When I open my eyes and ears to the stories of others experiencing loss it breaks my heart. I want to help them. Rather it is by providing a shoulder to cry on or a meal for their family or an ear to listen I want to be there.

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Question Wednesday 1: Strengths

Beautiful Things: Strengths

Today I am going to begin a monthly post to ask questions to all of you beautiful people out there.  Yes, you  I am not out here on my own writing to myself so one day I will return and answer myself, but that might be interesting to do in the future. I wonder how my future self would give advice to my old self. I digress, as usual.

So let’s get to the questions.

  1. What do you do each week to try and build into your strengths?
  2. What have you reflected on or been reminded by someone else that you don’t do so well and you thought it was a strength?
  3. As Marcus Buckingham says, how can you start to “tilt the floor towards your strengths” to be the best you?

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What Does Epiphany Mean To You?

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As I gazed upon my calendar right there imprinted on this date was the word epiphany. A quick definition found on Google:A sudden revelation or insight. But why was this word on my calendar? As I read through a deeper explanation found here, some things began to unravel in my mind. Going back replaying moment by moment I thought why does this word warrant a note like a holiday or special event? Then curiosity got me and I was swiftly going from the story online, to Mathew 2:1-12 and then to confirmation that Magi indeed meant wise men. All roads led to Jesus.

Who knew, well I am sure some of you did, that The Twelve Days of Christmas are not before but after Christmas day? Who knew in some traditions they take all their Christmas trees and wreaths down and have a bonfire on the twelfth day?

But the tradition was beloved in old England.
”Twelfth Night was the burning of the greens; you took the Christmas wreaths
down and burned them,” said the Rev. Bill King, rector of Trinity Episcopal Church in Clanton. ”In the old English tradition you’d have a bonfire on Twelfth Night.”

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It Is Time To Take Action On Your Purpose.

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It is easy to feel warm and fuzzy when everything around you is sunshine and flowers but stepping into the unknown is frightening and we often build it up with dark shadows and what we think are unattainable dreams.

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#2—The Importance of Mentors

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

It is 3:22 am and I can’t sleep. Tossing and turning with random thoughts I jump out of bed to scribble them down. You ever notice how this happens at the most inopportune times like when in the shower, while driving or right when you want to be sleeping? We allow our minds to relax.

My mind is jumping all around thinking about the strange significance of my kids’ birthdays to my dad’s passing. My son’s birthday is 2/9/99, my daughter’s 12/27/12 and my dad’s passing 3/2/12. I find it interesting that they all have the number 2. Then I think both kids’ birthdays have doubles. 99 and 12/12.

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Find Your Perfect Fit

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You walk into a store ignited with bright lights and rows of beauty and there they are, the perfect shoes. You run over in excitement hoping they have them in your size. You look frantically but come up empty handed. You try the rows on either side just praying someone misplaced them, but no. Then you wander around trying on others aimlessly and in the end settle for second best and end up either returning them later or watching the dust settle on the box in your closet.

While I was online one day a simple ad popped up with a picture of boots that said “Find your shoes”. Simple and to the point and then it hit me we are all just searching for finding the right fit. A perfect fit for your purpose in life, a perfect fit for your job, a perfect fit for your significant other and you could fill this in with what you are seeking.

When we miss out on what we are searching for we often believe our “perfect fit” is gone forever. We spend hours, days, months, years’ looking for a replacement to what we thought was our “perfect fit”.

You don’t have to try on all the other shoes; just walk up to the counter and ask to order your size. Jot down the brand name and research online for another similar place that sells the same shoe. Look around and realize that none of the options in this store fit what you are looking for. Now leave and be patient for another day when the “perfect fit” will show up.

Maybe those shoes you would have pushed for and never gave up on would mean even more when you had to search and search for them. Have your ever searched for a specific toy your child really wanted from Santa? When you find it you nearly jump up and down. That is what happens when we put all the extra effort into searching. Sometimes it is a pain and sometimes we don’t want to be patient but in the end the reward and joy you get from seeing finally what you have been looking for is indescribable.

Perfect Fit Lesson:

  1. Order your size
    1. Don’t give up when you don’t see what you are looking for right away, ask and you never know what the future may hold
  2. Look for your shoes somewhere else
    1. Just because what you want is not where you are doesn’t mean it isn’t somewhere else very near
  3. None of the shoes are right for you
    1. Be patient and wait

Know that there is no perfect fit just the right time and place.

What “perfect fit” are you searching for? Do you need to change stores or just be patient?

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