What can you learn from younger generations on how to be a helping hand?


Sitting in the Subway drive-thru I looked up to see a woman standing near the road with a sign asking for food. When I see people in need it is torture for me not to give money or offer to help in some way but in our society often times it is a lie. There are people who don’t need the money at all who pretend as if they do. There are people who use the money to buy drugs or alcohol. But what about the ones who really need it? I want to help them.

As I am sitting there pondering a young woman walks up to the homeless woman. I don’t know her words but can tell she is offering to buy the woman lunch. The woman puts down her cardboard sign and her bag of belongings and walks inside. My heart was filled.

As I began to drive away I looked down at my purse and remembered the $10 bill inside and knew what I needed to do. I parked my vehicle and walked inside. Approaching the young woman I whispered, as not to alert everyone to why they were there or what I was doing, and said I saw what you did out there and I think it is very kind and I would like to contribute. The young woman looked down at her coupons and said, “I’ve got this, I have enough”.

She truly wanted to help this homeless woman on her own. I, of course, controlling person, insisted and then offered one more time and she took the money and said thank you.

As I entered my vehicle I thought about a couple things. One, what an amazing, caring, and thoughtful young woman to offer to help someone in need. Two, had I just forcefully taken away her joy in giving by offering to assist? I have heard and read about how important it is to younger generations to contribute to their community. Did I make the wrong decision to insist on helping?

I saw her face and it was either of the embarrassment of me offering to give her money or of her kindness in not wanted to take assistance but to give it all away. Maybe I need to go back and check out my old post and reread #4 on understanding facial expressions a little better.

The next day while I was listening to an old Andy Stanley podcast about sharing your experiences with others, I thought about the impacts this young woman made on me and probably many others in her life. In the podcast, it talks about having a treasure chest filled with successes and failures to share. I thought about how much this young woman already has in her treasure chest and how she uses every ounce of it to share with others.

4 valuable lessons I learned from this young woman.

  1. Think outside the box when you come up against perspective roadblocks.
  2. Take action when you see someone in need.
  3. Don’t be afraid.
  4. Don’t worry, you will have enough.

In closing, I will leave you with this billboard. Click on it if you are a curious person like me. I couldn’t help but bring up the article I had read after finding the hand with one blueberry inside.


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